Keeping a memory to yourself until it's ready
Keep to myself for now saves a memory only you can see — not even the page's managers — until you add it to the page. Nothing about it reaches anyone before then.
Some memories take a few sittings. Some you want to read back before anyone else does. Beside Save memory there is a second choice: Keep to myself for now.
What it does
The memory is saved, but it isn't on the page. Only you can see it — not the other contributors, not the people who look after the page, not the person it's about. It doesn't count as a memory, doesn't appear in anyone's search, can't be pinned, shared or put in a collection, and nobody is told it exists.
Your kept memories have a view of their own — Kept to yourself, beside Grid and Calendar over the page's Memories — for your eyes only. Open one to keep writing, add photos, or change your mind.
Adding it to the page
When it's ready, Add to page — on the memory or in its editor. It then lands exactly where it would have if you'd saved it the first time: on the page at once if you look after it, or waiting for a manager if the page reads contributors' memories first. That is the moment the page hears of it, and the day it was added.
Several at once: on the Kept to yourself view choose Select, tap the ones you want, then Add to page — up to 200 at a time, asked once, and they land in the order of the life. The same bar has Set when (a year or a decade for them all) and Remove, which deletes them and their photos for good; nobody else ever saw them.
You can name the people in its photos while it's kept — those names wait with it, and reach the page when the memory does. What others remember waits until then.
Things to know
- It's one way. Once a memory is on the page, the way back is to edit it or delete it — hearts and names may already be on it.
- A memory kept to yourself never becomes anyone else's: if you leave a page, or your account is closed and a page passes to a trusted person, your kept memories go with you.
- It's yours to keep as long as you like. A memory you never add is simply a private one.
- Under a parent's wing: a young person can keep a memory to themselves on their own page; on someone else's page the parent sees everything first, so there's nothing to keep back.
There's no "publish on a date". A letter that opens on a day is a letter for later.